“It’s the most annoying question and they just can’t help asking you. You’ll be asked at family gatherings, particularly weddings. Men will ask you it on first dates. Therapists will ask you over and over again. And you’ll ask yourself it far too often. It’s the question that has no good answer, and that never makes anyone feel better. It’s the question, that when people stop asking it, makes you feel even worse….”
– Julie Jenson in How to be Single by Liz Tuccillo
Hits straight home. It’s undeniably one of the main reasons why you could creatively think of a thousand and one reasons to beg off at family gatherings and weddings. The last single woman standing. They’d incessantly tease you on it, much to your chagrin. And you’ve grown tired of answering the same questions over and over again. Funny how people can really get into your nerves. Such are things that make your life a tad ordeal to speak of, things that you have to live with for the rest of your single life.
But then again, single life isn’t all about being miserable, it isn’t about having to live a lonely, pathetic life.
Because there are times….
When you stand witness to a domestic squabble that went violently out of hand; when you look at the terrified face of a mother tending to her sick child; when you’ve grown tired of listening to a wife’s agony on her philandering husband – much to your dismay, and much to her being a bonafide candidate to martyrdom; or when you gasp in disbelief when your highschool chum who used to be the most popular in your batch shows up in her shabby, dishelved self, exuding that aura that she badly needs a makeover – all because of her good-for-nothing lifetime partner and her seemingly tedious domestic chores. And worse when a friend can’t afford the simplest of life’s pleasures because of financial constraints.
These are the moments when you can momentarily rejoice in silence thinking that you are lucky enough not to be in their shoes. These things can subtly break that sporadic loneliness creeping in to you in the most unwanted moment, because logic dictates that you’d rather be alone than go through the same predicament.
I am not saying that married life or coupling up is like a curse, neither do I say that single life is a blessing. It’s just that today, is one of those out-of-the-blue-extraordinary-day when I can say:
Thank God I’m Single.